Let’s be honest starting over after a divorce, breakup, birth of a child, job loss can seem overwhelmingly scary and really make you feel inadequate. Then of course we open our phones, go on social media to see others excited about accomplishments can make you feel worse. Trust me – we have all been there! Everyone’s picture perfect life isn’t always that perfect. So today I am sharing my top 5 favorite ways to give yourself grace when you are feeling like life is not going the way you want it to.
What Does Giving Yourself Grace Mean?
To me giving yourself grace is a solid ongoing process. It involves cultivating a mindset of self-compassion and recognizing that you are deserving of understanding, patience, and care, just like anyone else. It involves giving yourself the ability to be flexible, to be honest about your bandwidth and to be honest about energy, interest and feelings. When it comes to giving yourself grace I am here to tell you….
You are exactly where you are supposed to be!
Recently I went to YEBO and had lunch with my girlfriends. We were having a great time catching up and laughing, when all of a sudden we started talking about “things we don’t know“. And guess what- we all agree – sometimes in life – you don’t know what you don’t know! And guess what- THAT IS OKAY! We aren’t meant to know everything and we are all meant to stumble and make mistakes – because guess what – that is part of life! Giving yourself grace involves practicing self-compassion and understanding that everyone makes mistakes or faces challenges. Here are my top favorite ways to show yourself grace when you are entering the unknown and dealing with obstacles that life might be throwing at you.
// Practice Self-Kindness // Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend. Acknowledge that everyone has flaws and makes mistakes, and it’s okay to be imperfect. Replace self-criticism with self-compassion.
// Forgive Yourself // Understand that making mistakes is a part of being human. Instead of dwelling on past errors, forgive yourself and focus on learning from the experience. Use mistakes as opportunities for growth rather than reasons for self-blame.
// Set Realistic Expectations // Avoid setting overly high and unrealistic expectations for yourself. Recognize your limitations and understand that it’s okay not to excel at everything. Setting achievable goals allows you to make progress without putting undue pressure on yourself.
// Take Breaks and Practice Self-Care// Give yourself permission to take breaks and prioritize self-care. Taking time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation can help alleviate stress and prevent burnout. It’s important to nurture your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. For me self-care is dressing to make myself feel awesome. For me I love bright colored dresses – like this one and this one– the bright colors tend to brighten my mood.
// Challenge Negative Self-Talk // Pay attention to your inner dialogue and challenge negative self-talk. When you catch yourself being overly critical or self-deprecating, reframe those thoughts in a more positive and compassionate light. Focus on your strengths and the progress you’ve made.
Everyone’s timeline and path to success looks different. Different paths to success definitely do NOT mean that one path is better than the other. If you know you are waking up everyday and giving 1000% of yourself to a goal, passion or a project, it is bound to happen. We all get there when the timing is right and we are ready to receive it. Give yourself some grace and you got this.
What are some of your favorite ways to give yourself grace? If so let me know in the comments below…